Portrait of a Teen Mom Part 2 - With Ashley And Company

This is my second interview I had regarding being a teen mom. Again, I have to say both of these women and all the single parents out there have my utmost respect. If you haven't read Kristin's story, check it out here: Portrait of a Teen Mom Part 1

Lisa and I became friends several years ago. We met through our Church and it just goes to show how much you can not know about someone you see a lot! I had no idea what she had gone through in her life. Thank you Lisa for sharing your story with me and the world. It's another great one!

1. What were your first thoughts when you found out you were pregnant?

I'm having this baby. I had so little control over my environment. I knew that the baby I was carrying was mine and no one could take that from me.

2. What was the hardest thing about being pregnant in high school?

Getting up so early and standing at the bus stop. For the first 3-4 months I would get sick every morning at the bus stop and of course everyone would stare and be completely grossed out.

3. How did your relationship with the babys father change when the baby came?

It wasn't all fun and games anymore. We argued over money a lot. Our priorities were in complete contrast now. Kevin wanted to party and I wanted to be a good parent but I was also terrified of losing the only “man” who gave me some sort of security.

4. What was the hardest thing about being a young mom?

Juggling life and not being able to spend more time with Robert. Wanting to give him more than I possibly could. I went to school and when straight to work after class. I refused to be on welfare and praise be to God, I never had to. However, it was a struggle to simply survive.

5. How did your life change when you had the baby?

Everything I did now revolved around this little life. Just the mundane activities like doing my homework were a challenge. There was no time for leisure, friends, dances. My life was so much different than that of my peers. I felt very isolated at times and misunderstood.

6. What helped you get through the difficult times (financial stress, relationship dramas, etc)

There is only one answer – Jesus Christ and His love for us. He has always provided for us. I started praying for Robert when I was pregnant and have never stopped. God has been faithful and over the years has answered more prayers than I can number. He is the reason we live.

7. What's it like now that the child is older, same stresses, different? Relationship with the father?

It's sweet! Life is beautiful. Robert is a God-fearing man with an active relationship with the Lord. He has wisdom beyond his years and makes very sound decisions in his life. Of course there is some baggage from the past but it's minimal and we are both aware of it. Kevin and I do not have much contact today. He is not a bad person but is emotionally distant. Robert and Kevin do see each other on a pretty regular basis, like on major holidays, birthdays, family functions. They actually went on a deep-sea fishing trip this past year and had a very good day.

8. What's one thing you wish young girls would realize about having a baby at a young age?

It's not a game, it's not glamorous, and “one” responsibility of a parent is to sacrifice their life for that child. That means giving up self!

9. What is your advice to other single moms?

In every circumstance, trial, and challenge, put your hope in the Lord and nothing or no one else. Pray for your children and realize that God will meet your needs and that of your children, including their need for a father. Psalm 68:5 – Father to the fatherless, defender of widows (single moms), this is God – whose dwelling is Holy.

10. Anything else you want to add?

In the darkest shadows, the light still shines. Look past the mountain in front of our eyes – a new day dawns.

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